“Of all spiders, the Black Widow is the most feared. The female’s venom is especially poisonous to people.
Despite our reputation, we would rather escape rather than bite, unless we are guarding an egg mass or if we are cornered and pressed.
The male black widow will not bite you.After mating, the female sometimes eats the male. We only have to mate once in our lifetime, you know.”
During the period shortly following mating and lying of eggs, the female black widow can be a little cranky and hungry. After this period, if he lives through it! Our mate will live quite comfortably, but on the other end of web.”
Does this sound familiar to you?”
“This my dear is the attitude of a unwise woman.”
She weaves threads of resentment by forcibly controlling her own circumstances and by her actions; she demonstrates the folly of placing confidence in her own emotions. Her foundation is not laid on The Rock.
Therefore, this is how she holds her family together. Instead of seeking the God of Wisdom for her marriage and in raising her children, she follows her feelings making cob-webs that will not hold nothing!”
“ What he trusts in is fragile; what he relies on is a spider’s web.
15 He leans on his web, but it gives way; he clings to it, but it does not hold.”
“For instance, when the little things someone does irritate you or hurt your feelings. The eyes of your heart turn away from the Lord and begin looking at others, subjectively turning the heart of God away from them and their needs. You then begin soothing your hurt feelings, focusing on past wounds. As a spider begins to spin her web, you too, begin spinning up past hurts and finding fault in other’s; pointing fingers and accusing where there is no grounds of such accusations. Just another egg hatched from a deceived mind and the folly of placing confidence in your own emotions, she will reach for something other than the Living God.
You can reach for the telephone, calling all the prayer warriors you can think of for prayer for yourself without accusing or judging, which can lead to gossip and gossip is one tool God does not approve of. Eph. 4:25-32.
I am not saying that we shouldn’t ask for prayer. What I am saying is, if we know someone with a lose tongue, and then it is best to call someone that can keep confidence, like one close friend that fears the Lord. Proverbs 27:17 say: As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.
I have a friend that never tells me what I want to hear, instead, she tells me the truth and believe me; the truth does hurt, especially when you have a self-righteous attitude! Proverbs 15:31 He who listens to a life-giving rebuke will be at home among the wise.
Let’s read Proverbs 6:16 (There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him.
1. Haunty eyes/coveting what other’s have
2. A lying tongue/gossiping, about someone, like your husband?
3. Hands that shed innocent blood/condemning, judging where you have no business judging
4. A heart that devises wicked schemes/conspiring against someone in your thoughts, making plans for evil
5. Feet that are quick to rush into evil/rushing in like a flood to defend yourself
6. A false witness who pours out lies/condemning the innocent
7. A man who stirs up dissension.
“A foolish woman will learn the skills of masterminding her plots of destruction and take action. T he foundation of her heart begins to crack, and when the storms of life come the home in her heart is unstable and she is left sitting alone in the pit of self-pity, when all along she took her self-righteous attitude and used it as tool to manipulate other’s into doing what she wanted! Sound familiar? Jezebel was strong willed, and forceful. She left no survivors in her endeavors. She seen what she wanted and she took it!”
This is what happened to her:
Oh the web she weaved,
She sat and waited for her prey,
She feared no one, not even God.
For she set up a table offered up to Baal
Her husband feared her,
Her children were the eggs of her wickedness
So as a feast to the dogs, she became.
“For years my husband and I sat in different rooms in our home to read God’s Holy Word and pray. We had our differences about God in our conversations; that led us into Pharisees. See Psalm 55. I finally understood that it was not my husband that was my enemy, it was lies from the devil; who was out to cause division in our marriage. Since we now recognize that we are bond by the Love of Jesus Christ, we stand together in Him. Instead of fighting against each other, we fight for each other, although not as someone would think. We fight the battle within ourselves.”
James 4: What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 2You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God. 3When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. 4You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with the world is hatred toward God? Anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God. 5 Or do you think Scripture says without reason that the spirit he caused to live in us envies intensely? 6 But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:
“God opposes the proud
But he gives grace to the humble.”
7Submit yourselves, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8 Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. 9 Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. 10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.
By submission to Christ, and submitting to the authority God places above us, we now see that we are no longer slaves to our emotions as the world is a slave to their emotions. See: 1Corin.3: 3 you are still worldly. For since there is jealousy and quarreling among you, are you not worldly? Are you not acting like mere men?
If married couples submit to one another out of reverence to Christ in everything, through Him, His Fullness will be revealed through us. Our children will his grace, our relatives, neighbors, and to the watching world. His Light will be seen without a doubt, that the Lord and His Christ Reigns in our hearts and in our homes!