The Untamed Tongue

Oh the web she weaved,

She sat and waited for her prey,

She feared no one, not even God.

For she set up a table offered up to baal

Her husband feared her,

Her children were the eggs of her wickedness


Changing my mind, changing my attitude

As I travel in a Day’s Journey in Christ

By Lisa Rene Delgado, July 27, 2008


Of all spiders, the Black Widow is the most feared. The female’s venom is especially poisonous to people. Despite its reputation, this spider often attempts to escape rather than bite, unless it is guarding an egg mass or if it is cornered and pressed. The male black widow will not bite you. After mating, the female sometimes eats the male; she only has to mate once in her life, earning the name “widow.” During the period shortly following mating and laying her eggs, the female black widow can be a little cranky and hungry. After this period, (if her mate lives through it!) the male lives quite comfortably at the very corner of her web, in a safe distance.  Sound familiar?”


A strong-willed woman has the tongue of a viper. It can strike quickly and leave its victim dumbfounded. The strike of the tongue will lash out with venomous poisons that can burn down to core of the heart. The wounds of this venom will slowly burn in one’s heart until the life is sucked right of it.


One day as I was pulling into the parking space at the post office, I couldn’t help but over hear a woman speaking on her cell phone. She was talking in a calm voice, sounded like she was explaining herself. Then in a loud voice she yelled, “you dumb, bleep!” I felt chilled, and horrified by her words. It was like a sharp sword going right into the pit of my soul. I said silently, O Lord, forgive her. But to my surprise I was reminded of how many times, I yelled hateful words to my own husband, not as profound, but who defines words that destroy. I used subtler words; but the effect was just as destructive, my words were masked behind my spiritual arrogance. I was what Oswald Chambers calls a religious imposter. I turned instead and said, “O Lord forgive me.” Something in my heart was very wrong, I realized that I was spiritually proud and my family was suffering for this. And friends, who are true friends, spoke the truth over me. Thank you!


Matthew 11:25

At that time Jesus said, “I praise you Father, Lord of heaven and earth, because you have hidden these things from the wise and learned, and revealed them to little children.

26 Yes, Father, for this was your good pleasure. 27 all things have been committed to me by my Father. No one knows the Son except the Father, and no one knows the Father except the Son and those to whom the Son chooses to reveal him. 28 Come to me; all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”



 If I stay just a wife, and not follow Jesus, by learning how to be a wife to my husband;

What then would become of this marriage?

But a bug trapped in the spider’s web, in the web of deception.

Pointing fingers, accusing and assuming things of each other,

Believing lies, never knowing who we are in Christ nor receiving His gift of marriage.


 But you say, “I am a believer, and he is not!” 

Then continue walking close to Jesus instead of waiting for your husband or children to change their ways, (attitude); it’s not going to happen. Why? Because you, who are a Christian are already in disobedience by refusing to care for the sheep God placed in front of you, your husband and children!

You can be a House of Prayer in your own home front, on your own Ponderosa and build a house that will glorify the Lord, or you can tear it down and bring disgrace and shame upon yourself, giving to God an offering that is defiled. Haggai 2, Daniel 4 and 6

 Isaiah 56: Maintain justice and do what is right, for my salvation is close at hand and my righteousness will soon be revealed. 2Blessed is the man who does this, the man who holds it fast, who keeps the Sabbath and keeps his hand from doing any evil.” 3Let no foreigner who has bound himself to the Lord say, “The Lord will surely exclude me from his people. And let not any eunuch complain, “I am only a dry tree.”

If you have been called home, to tend to the flock in your household, including your husband, then that is where you need to be. If you cannot attend Church regularly, be involved in ministries, studies, leadership, fellowship, etc. Remember all that has already been assigned to you at home. I am by no means suggesting leaving the Church, what I am saying is, if God called you home and you attend church sporadically, with the heart for His church, but in submission to His call, then blessed are you, as you walk daily, keeping in step with Him, following his commands in the word and living the word as he enables you, by the strength of His love and the Power of God behind you, then you will produce fruit for God; and you, the tree will bloom in every season with fruit that is useful to those for whom it was intended.



Jesus taught me to begin praying the word over my family, and then as friends were coming into my path, I began praying for their families. One day, while we were driving to work, the Lord told me to write names in my journal. I thought, that’s easy, so I began writing the names of my family, relatives, friends, customers, etc.

I wrote the names that came to mind on the sides of the page, I even asked the Lord to give me names of people I didn’t know. When I finished writing, then the Lord said, “Write in your journal, Psalm 128.” I opened the bible to the Psalm and began crying and praising God. He had a blessing for all these whose names were written in my journal.


Friday July 9, 2004

Psalms 128 How happy are those who fear the Lord- all who follow his ways!

2You will enjoy the fruit of your labor. How happy you will be!

How rich your life! 3Your wife will be a fruitful vine, and look at all those children!

There they sit around your table as vigorous and healthy as young olive trees.

That is the Lord’s reward for those who fear him.

5May the Lord continually bless you from Zion.

May you see Jerusalem prosper as long as you live.

 6May you live to enjoy your grandchildren

 and may Israel have quietness and peace.


At this time in my walk with the Lord, my relatives were struggling not only hard times financially, but emotionally, physically, and drugs were consuming them. I remember after writing this, it was five months later at Christmas, Jess and I went to a family dinner. It was at least a year since I have seen my relatives.  The family did not look very healthy; it was as if their very life was sucked out of them, we were a dieing generation and I knew that in my heart, I left feeling hopeless for all of us; but the Holy Spirit reminded me of the blessing, He told me to write for those whose names are written in my journal.


 My grandmother was a praying woman, she always prayed for the family. As a little child, prayer was weaved in me by her. I would hear her cry out (Lament) to God, and beg mercy on her children and grandchildren. When she died in 1995, there was no longer a priest in the land, no one to plead for us; the family began to die a slow death. No one was praying anymore! Yes, we all have had times of short breathed prayers, and blessing, but no one was Lamenting for a generation dyeing. My Great grandmother, my grandmother and her sisters prayed for their families, they cried bitterly before the Lord and they knew Him in every detail of their lives; down to the single crumb on their table, they acknowledged the Lord Jesus Christ.  Yet, we an ignorant generation did not know the Lord, and realize the favor and compassion he showed to such an underserved generation through the Heart Cries from our mothers.



Lamentations 2:18

The hearts of the people cry out to the Lord

O wall of the Daughter of Zion, let your tears flow like a river day and night, as the watches of the night begin; pour out your heart like water in the presence of the Lord. Lift up your hands to him for the lives of your children, who faint from hunger at the head of every street. 



 And by the grace given to you in Christ, May the Lord God Almighty give you the gift of a servant’s heart toward your husband. May He give you the gift of motherhood and the gift of wisdom in keeping your house clean and organized, while teaching your children boundaries and discipline through your actions and deeds. May He give you insight in the kitchen as you prepare meals for your family. May those God put in your path be godly women who fear the Lord be an encouragement to you and teach you how to be good wives and mothers even as you are a minister to the Lord, offering spiritual sacrifices that are pleasing to him, building his holy Temple doing your part as a builder, a restorer of walls as you walk close to Jesus, acknowledging him in every detail of your ordinary life. May you stand firm in confidence on the Rock, Jesus Christ, and know that you have not been excluded from his people, but rather you will bear fruit. Your fruit will be revealed through your family.


I know what I am talking about, you see,

I was that one who weaved her web

I sat in the corner of my house for a long time.

I lived on the cobwebs of my past.

But now, praise and glory to God alone

My house is filled with children and laughter and love.

Isaiah 54


 Lisa Rene Delgado

July 27, 2008